A meeting to send away 3,500 patients! Japanese doctor Anning: Most of the regrets that you have before your death can be accomplished while you are alive

Editorial Note: Japanese doctor Takeshi Koze has been working as an Aning doctor for more than 25 years and has been working for more than 3,500 patients in the final moments. In addition to encouraging patients to reflect on their lives, find out the value and entrusting, and reduce regrets, he also reminds ordinary people to try their imagination from the perspective of the endorse: If life is limited, what is the most important thing? The way you look at the world may be different.

There is a hypothetical question: if you know that you have only one year left in your life, how would you choose to survive?

Will you travel around the world immediately, or choose to spend it with your closest family? Or enjoy the food as much as possible, buy what you want, and do what you like? I believe many people will think that "there are still many things I want to do, but the time is not enough."

Xiao Zezhu Toshi, who has worked in the final doctor for 25 years, has been a doctor Anning for many years and has witnessed the life journey of many patients towards the end of their lives. He found that there was almost no exception: everyone would definitely look back on their life before they died.

In his experience, perhaps not everyone can leave with a completely satisfied mood, but most people go back to the journey of their life and think that they have achieved this kind of success and have worked hard.

Of course, some people will regret some parts of life. Some people may feel "not spending much time with their families" or regret "I didn't do what I wanted to do at that time".

How to complete a lifetime of failure? 4 principles that will leave no regrets in life

or that everyone has different definitions of "a life without regrets" or what they want to accomplish. Kozawa Toshiki identified the following four key conditions:

1. Don't deny yourself

2. You are brave enough to take a new try at any age

3. Express your inner emotions with your family or important people

4. It seems like a common conversation to spend every day well, but in fact, life may face many unexpected situations: illness, work or failures in human relations, etc., which may make people deny themselves, no longer have the courage to challenge new things, or ignore the important people around them.

Although sometimes life cannot follow the pre-definite ideal route due to external factors, how to face these setbacks can be decided by yourself.

The more difficult and setbacks you encounter, the more you can find what is really important to you to support yourself, make yourself happy. But most people may only start thinking about these problems at the last moment of their lives.

Therefore, back to the initial question: "If life is only one year left, what would you do?" The answer may be about to come out.

Limited life is also a kind of disposal that leaves people with something that is really important

For most people, "tomorrow" is naturally a matter of constant arrival. Therefore, we can look forward to the future or plan.

But for patients who are lying in Anning's ward and may leave at any time, "tomorrow" is as precious as a luxury; when you think of the moment when you are about to welcome "no tomorrow", you often feel very desperate, let alone the pain in your body.

Xiao Zezhu Toshi said that as an Ning doctor, in addition to giving medical measures that are painful and painful, he will also be able to satisfy his last wishes in life according to the patient's wishes and reduce some of his thoughts.

For example, a male patient lived with his partner for most of his children and never had a formal marriage process. With the help of the team, he registered his marriage with the other party a few days before the end, and held a simple wedding in the ward, and finally passed away in a safe and detailed manner.

"Maybe not everything you want to do can be done, but if you ask yourself: if you don't do it now and you will regret it, you will have no hesitation and should do it immediately." Xiaoze Taketsu said that the closer you are to the end of your life, the more you can realize that "it doesn't matter if you can't do it, it doesn't matter", and you can also liberate from many destructions and discover what is really important.

Where does self-value come from? Not from others but inheriting and paying

In addition, if you compare appearance, ability or achievement with others, you feel superior or inferior. These values obtained through comparison are also insignificant in the face of death. Even if you have a lofty social status or admirable wealth and beauty, you will be equal to death.

In the observation of Taketsu Koze, many patients who are about to die can feel comforted, there are roughly the following:

1. As a member of the family or group, support and take care of the members in the company

2. The hard work of oneself brings some contributions to society

3. Things that are cherished and valued can be passed on to the next generation

In life, there will be times when you feel pain, or maybe some people think that "it is better to die than to live in pain." But Takeshi Kozawa believes that "pain" itself is not necessarily a bad thing.

He has seen many people who are obviously suffering but still full of vitality every day. For the destiny patients whose life is about to disappear, despite being tortured by the disease, they can actually achieve unprecedented peace and satisfaction in these life events that have not been carefully thought about in the past..

The 9 questions to patients in Anning leave evidence for life

In the Anning treatment of Taketsuko Koze, there is a period called "Letter to Important People", which includes 9 questions. You might as well think about it together:

1. What is the most impressive event in your life or the most important thing for yourself?

2. What message do you want to leave to the people who matter most, or what you want them to remember?

3. What roles have you lived in in your life? (Family, career or local) What is the most important of these?

4. What do you think is the most important and valuable thing about the achievements you have accomplished?

5. Have you ever wanted to express to important people in the past and never said anything?

6. What expectations or dreams do you have for those who are important to you?

7. After walking through this life, have you ever realized some truth and wanted to tell the people around you?

8. On the contrary, are there any warnings that they wish to take as a warning?

9. Any other things you want to supplement

Through these questions that think about life, for the few peaceful patients in the future, they are the "future" they can trust; and for their families, when the patients die, they will become an important spiritual pillar of their families.

"The less time you have, the more you can clarify your true self." Find out what is really important to you, regard every day as the last day of your life, or maybe when you need to say goodbye, you can reduce some regrets in your life.