Why is resentment easier than originality? Expert: Understanding the original art is also a part of art

【Text, Pictures/Selected from the joint publication "I Don't Want to Be a Good Man Always", author Park Min-gen]

Understand originality, and it is also an art

"What can I do, I can only explain it."

For a long time, Woo Bin felt uncomfortable because of his fellow graduate of Gong Hao. When Yubin remembered that incident, he was still angry and didn't want to see Zhen Hao.

This is how it is: a few months ago, the roof of the laboratory was almost overturned. Zhen Hao was the party who made the mistake and forgot to submit the competition documents within the deadline. In order to deal with the emergencies that emerged at the moment, Yubin was worried. The person who was clearly responsible for submitting the documents was Zhen Hao. He spent several months in the competition, but he had not even registered the documents. It was even a few days before Zhen Hao spoke up, and the same group members whispered to him.

Every time I meet Zhen Hao, Yubin will use this matter to point him. Because at the beginning, the person who proposed the core point was Yu Bin, and he was also the one who was the most serious and prepared. After nearly a year of hard work, Yubin couldn't help but feel angry.

Yu Bin felt that he was suffering from depression, so he asked me through someone he knew and asked me for a solution. He said he was so angry that he couldn't concentrate on his books and failed the final exam, asking me what books I would like to see to help him. Afterwards, I obtained his phone number, contacted him by myself, and introduced several books. The ultimate goal was to hope that he could speak the original.

I have been consulting for others all the way and meeting those who cannot extricate resentment and anger. I noticed that people who resent someone often don’t know an important fact: the end of suffering and the ultimate resentment that destroys life. At first glance, the winning family seems to be the resentful person, while the defeated person is the hated person. Otherwise, the resentful will lose more. Resentment is the most destructive emotion among human emotions.

Those who have proven their opinions will choose originality and replace resentment. Although this is the case, it is often difficult for us to easily improvise the other party's mistakes. One of the reasons why

is unfair to reason is that it is unfair. The person who made mistakes was too busy, but because of that person's mistake, I suffered losses and was so wronged that I couldn't express the truth. I want to hate this person to compensate my grievances and unfair treatment. The disappointment and frustration brought by an unsatisfactory life make it impossible for us to easily instruct others. However, things that are not clear are also wisdom.

You should know that resentment cannot be eliminated, not only with that person, but also with other things will become unscathing. We all know how powerful the destructive force of not letting go of resentment is. When resentment is in the heart, you must first think of the original meaning.

I originally thought that I would give us unexpected gifts. After being very difficult to understand others, in the future, we will become more generous when dealing with others, no longer care about other people's mistakes so much, and keep a normal mind. Of course, it is impossible to be honest about everything. Furthermore, there are people who are not worthy of instructing.

In fact, compared to the original one, what is more difficult is how to judge that person is a person worthy of originality, or that person is actually too cheap. After thinking about it, you cannot explain it.

So, shouldn’t you be rude and deliberately torture me? The original type of people is called cowardice, not original type. Sometimes, we need zero tolerance in a thorough way. In some things, Ning Ke cannot be too cautious.

To be honest, there are far more things that can be original than those that cannot be original. If you are upset about things that cannot be explained, it would be too stupid, because resentment will gradually become tiring. Get time to look at your heart. Small resentment and small resentment must be more than big resentment and big resentment. Don’t let resentment make your heart heavier.

A few months later, Yubin conveyed his gratitude and said that he had convicted Gong Hao. The two of them talked for a long time overnight and finally got to know each other. Now the two people often come in and out together, and Jiao Meng is not separated. Also, because of the indecision between each other, I am much better.

Too much negative feelings will make people cautious

We spend every day in the midst of making mistakes, and we give more responsibilities than mistakes. People just pretend not to know, and just shut their eyes and let their lives be stable. How can we be so qualified to not instruct others to make small mistakes? Although it was a bit wrong and was taught severely, it was not appropriate to never imprison the other party's approach.

Things that cannot be explained are the same as unsolved cases, which will make us chew and think repeatedly. Even if you don’t want to think about it anymore, you will always think of it. However, our hearts and our brains are smaller than expected. As the negative situation increases, the space will become smaller, the vision will become narrower, the judgment will be surprisingly immature, and people will become cautious. Therefore, in order to ensure space, we must use the "original" to clear up those broken little resentments and hatreds.

Although this is the case, it is only after various emotions that the original emotions will be produced. Before the thought of "Okay, what if he is wrong?" appears, you have to cross countless rivers and deserts. It is a taboo to be reluctant to be imprisoned and to be immersed in other good emotions first, until you develop the original intention, and then start thinking about the original intention.