In the past few years, the Taiwanese society, which cares about other people's feelings and vision, has begun to rethink the importance of "self-feeling" and "being yourself". But when "being yourself", there will a...
In the past few years, the Taiwanese society, which cares about other people's feelings and vision, has begun to rethink the importance of "self-feeling" and "being yourself". But when "being yourself", there will also be disagreement.
Some people's "being themselves" may be considered willful and harmful;
Some people's "being themselves" is very difficult and they don't know what to do.
Of course, for those who rarely "be yourself" and always focus on others' feelings and standards, "being yourself" is a very difficult course. Because we must first have a way to understand ourselves before we know how to interact with this world, and how to protect and display ourselves.
To be yourself, there are two very important keys
, that is, the key to "being yourself" is not only "self", but two very important keys:
■ How do I want to express myself?
■ How do I want to establish a relationship with the world?
Of course, I can express myself very willful and carelessly, and establish relationships with the world in this way; of course I can also express my own will, but respect other people's choices.
I think the reason why "being yourself" is so difficult is that we rarely have the opportunity to explore our feelings and needs.
Especially many people who have been humiliated and insulted, they are very clear about other people's emotions and standards (it may be possible that the aunt at the entrance of the alley knows how she thinks), but in contrast, it is actually very vague about her own feelings, emotions and standards.
is carried around, and his appearance is not clear.
When we explore our position in the world with a kind of "not knowing how we are", if we want to "be ourselves", those who are humiliated and injured, we are most likely to have two appearances:
1. I think I am me, and I can do whatever I do or perform. You should cooperate with me and accept my "Almighty Baby"'s willful state. Once your desires and needs are not met, you will immediately come up and react very fiercely, and even blame others for this.
2. Because I am not sure about my appearance, I carefully interact with people around the world and around me, hoping to find out my "suitable style" from the reactions of others, so that I can stay in this world safely and have a small position.
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