Many people encounter difficult things when facing feelings, friends, and family, and these difficult things pile up and become the most important memories of their lives. At this time, every word the people around them say will be deeply imprinted...
Many people encounter difficult things when facing feelings, friends, and family, and these difficult things pile up and become the most important memories of their lives. At this time, every word the people around them say will be deeply imprinted in each other's hearts. Whether it is emotion, or being more excited, they must master it and take a good grasp of it.
But comfort can sometimes hurt people. The following four are the most hurtful ways of comforting people.
1. When comforting, please don't teach me that many people often think of themselves when comforting, and apply it to the person who is worried. If the person who is comforted does not just fit this situation, he will feel the feeling of "Tang Monk" breaking thoughts.In fact, when comforting others, you can listen carefully first and then give appropriate responses. Sometimes you don’t have to talk too much, and it will also have the effect of companionship.
2. Negative comfortWhen I was a difficult time, I heard "Please don't worry" or "You've thought too much", do I feel a perfunctory feeling, and even feel that my feelings are indifferent.
When both sides are different thinking levels, "Please don't think too much", "Look at the opening", "The time fades away after a long time". Such comfort is actually a feeling of denying individuals, and even conveying the hint of "You can't do it." To prevent the other party from relaxing his emotions, he will not be able to understand the other party’s true inner world.
3. Fake celebrating comfortI often hear the comfort language of "I really understand you, my situation will not be better than you" so that people can spend several ten or two blood.
A person who is worried, when the emotions have not been circulated, it is actually a kind of empathy that is high. It’s like carrying your own sense of superiority and waiting for a good show to happen, which will only make such tragic people even more sad. In life, many people often view social phenomena with the heart of strong people, treat others’ experiences, and deny the rationality of the other party’s feelings.
The sad things vary from person to person. We are not the "he" and cannot truly feel pain in others. However, only those who have really experienced the same thing are qualified to say "I understand you"
4. Escape-style comfortAfter listening to the other party's filming, we only replied with the comfort words "Don't think about it", always saying that people should look forward and don't think too much, but the implication is that they hope you forget it.
This escape-style escape-style comfort makes things more complicated, and makes the wounded person think more or even forget about this. Is it true? This way of comforting the big things to turn small things into small things, it is better not to waste your time and not to make the injured person even more hurt!
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